What does pleasure look like for you?   What does the word “pleasure” bring up? When I looked up the root of the word pleasure in French and Latin, what struck me was that “pleasure” and “plea” come from the same root.  Plea is the desire, the call.  Pleasure is the answer, or the desire met.  Thus, pleasure is a sense of completion or contentment.  It brings calmness, placidness, being gratified, being appeased. This makes it more perplexing that we would ever avoid or de-prioritize pleasure.  Pleasure is actually the most natural thing in

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Do you ever find yourself spinning in the same old pattern in relationship? Do you get into the same argument over and again and don’t know how to get out of it? Do you rack your brains wondering what creates this vicious circle? I see couples every week for coaching who have reached a stalemate in their relationship. They are often trying to get their needs met with strategies that are simply not working. They may even be unknowingly pushing their partner away. It’s extremely frustrating when deep down there

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Question:  What do you get when you bring 4 women to the woods in the middle of nowhere for a weekend? Answer:  Topless dancing, swimming, hiking, soaking in natural hot springs, gourmet meals, lots of laughter and not quite enough sleep! But seriously… These women and I have been journeying together for 3 years now.  We meet for mastermind by video conference once a month and we meet for one on one sister support calls in between. These sisters have been my lifeline through the start up of my coaching business, through changing

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How much do you prioritize pleasure in your life? When do you focus on it? And what is the challenge for you in prioritizing pleasure? Do you focus instead on: Productivity Survival Relationship Harmony (not rocking the boat) These were my top 3 biggies.  I needed to be turned toward pleasure. To be told I could love my body, to focus on it. And to be told how….. In truth, pleasure is the felt sense of the nature of the universe. The very fabric of the universe is made of

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Reuben and I are getting ready to teach a 4-week Tantra for Couples course in Nelson, starting Wednesday June 5th and I wanted to take this opportunity to share with you my excitement for Tantra and what it has done for us! For us, there is now a clear distinction between “conventional sex” and “tantric” (or conscious) sex.  Going back to conventional sex is near impossible now that we have experienced the benefits of Tantra. For me, Tantra has been a way to use sex to grow and evolve as a human being.  In Tantra I get

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It was Saturday of Easter Weekend. I had about three different offers coming my way for how to spend the evening. Friends, family, out at a karaoke club, partner. But I had to admit I was feeling plain tired. I was also feeling grumpy that I didn’t have more energy to socialize. I knew that a girlfriend of mine had sexy plans for the evening. That sounds enticing, I thought. I was envious. So with all these feelings swirling in me, my partner asked me what I wanted for the

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