It disheartens me how much natural sexual expression is thwarted.  Sexual energy is so precious and sacred.  Yet most of us flail around in the bedroom, looking for a “role” to play. Do you fake orgasm?  Do you egg your partner on so sex can be over and done with?  Do you have sex because your partner wants to even though you don’t?  Do you feel you have to finish even if you’re having no fun, or even in pain? These are sad things but I can write them because I have lived them.  I have lived them for

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Flowing in circles….following your heart… not pushing past…following your body….not ploughing through….these are the qualities of the feminine.  Circular, intuitive, trusting, heartfelt, mysterious, soft, yielding, receptive, embodied, emotional…   The other morning I woke up feeling depressed.  Then I became annoyed that I didn’t have the energy for my to-do list.  I decided to consult the NVC list of feelings and needs.  This is a super helpful resource to name your emotions and needs you are having in any moment.   After finding the words for my needs and feelings, I decided not to pressure

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Intimacy means “Into-Me-You-See.”  I recently asked my partner of over 20 years to tell me what is the heart of intimacy.  My partner closed his eyes for several seconds and shared this: “The heart of intimacy is being able to go into your highest highs and lowest lows in the presence of another.  And being able to hold space for another to do the same.” So simple. So beautiful. We then talked about what makes intimacy possible. First and foremost, in intimacy comes self-love.  It is not possible to truly accept

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I’ve got a question for you: are you rested enough for pleasure? Last fall I wrote a blog called “8 Reasons You May Be Experiencing Low Desire.”  I have been since recording videos for you.  If you didn’t read that blog you can find it here. In order to feel desire and turn on, you need to feel open and safe.  You need to feel rested in order to be able to FOCUS ON PLEASURE. So why aren’t you?  Could it be that you have been rushing around all day, taking

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Relationships are hard work.   Aren’t they?  Unlike what we were told as little girls, a prince doesn’t always swoop us up on his white horse and save the day.  The shutters of a luxurious palace do not always open onto a sunshine-y days with birds fluttering in the trees, freshly baked bread and home-whipped butter prepared by the kitchen help.  And we don’t spend our evenings bedecked in jewels while dancing with all the handsome suitors in the neighbourhood. It is true that we may spend up to 3 years in a heady bubble of romance in a

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If you are like me, you were told a myth about your place in this world as a woman… You were told that happiness comes from taking care of a family, having a successful marriage, being a good mother, not rocking the boat, holding back your wild dreams or desires.  You were programmed to serve and support others, to “make one man happy.” To be made happy by one man.  ~ But at one point the myth started cracking….. You realized you were exhausted, disempowered and out of harmony with the calling of

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