It disheartens me how much natural sexual expression is thwarted.  Sexual energy is so precious and sacred.  Yet most of us flail around in the bedroom, looking for a “role” to play. Do you fake orgasm?  Do you egg your partner on so sex can be over and done with?  Do you have sex because your partner wants to even though you don’t?  Do you feel you have to finish even if you’re having no fun, or even in pain? These are sad things but I can write them because I have lived them.  I have lived them for

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Flowing in circles….following your heart… not pushing past…following your body….not ploughing through….these are the qualities of the feminine.  Circular, intuitive, trusting, heartfelt, mysterious, soft, yielding, receptive, embodied, emotional…   The other morning I woke up feeling depressed.  Then I became annoyed that I didn’t have the energy for my to-do list.  I decided to consult the NVC list of feelings and needs.  This is a super helpful resource to name your emotions and needs you are having in any moment.   After finding the words for my needs and feelings, I decided not to pressure

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Intimacy means “Into-Me-You-See.”  I recently asked my partner of over 20 years to tell me what is the heart of intimacy.  My partner closed his eyes for several seconds and shared this: “The heart of intimacy is being able to go into your highest highs and lowest lows in the presence of another.  And being able to hold space for another to do the same.” So simple. So beautiful. We then talked about what makes intimacy possible. First and foremost, in intimacy comes self-love.  It is not possible to truly accept

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I’ve got a question for you: are you rested enough for pleasure? Last fall I wrote a blog called “8 Reasons You May Be Experiencing Low Desire.”  I have been since recording videos for you.  If you didn’t read that blog you can find it here. In order to feel desire and turn on, you need to feel open and safe.  You need to feel rested in order to be able to FOCUS ON PLEASURE. So why aren’t you?  Could it be that you have been rushing around all day, taking

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Does this sound familiar? “I don’t know what I want in the bedroom.” OR:  “I don’t know how to ask for it.”  There are so many ways to experience intimacy, so many different things that catch our fancy and stoke the fire of desire.  We are all different. At the same time, is a total re-wiring for most women to awaken to and claim that we are just as sexy, just as sensual, and just as interested in sex as our male counterparts.  Because we have been told the opposite……. That’s why

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Many women associate menstruation, pregnancy and menopause as times of low sexual desire.  Is it really true?  Is your desire for sex really low during these times? Or is it what you’ve been fed (yet again) by society? Last fall I wrote a blog called “8 Reasons You May Be Experiencing Low Desire.”  I have been since recording videos for you.  If you didn’t read that blog you can find it here. So, ok, we can’t ignore the fact that hormonal balance does affect chemical libido.  I can attest to it myself.  I

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