What does pleasure look like for you?   What does the word “pleasure” bring up? When I looked up the root of the word pleasure in French and Latin, what struck me was that “pleasure” and “plea” come from the same root.  Plea is the desire, the call.  Pleasure is the answer, or the desire met.  Thus, pleasure is a sense of completion or contentment.  It brings calmness, placidness, being gratified, being appeased. This makes it more perplexing that we would ever avoid or de-prioritize pleasure.  Pleasure is actually the most natural thing in

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Do you ever find yourself spinning in the same old pattern in relationship? Do you get into the same argument over and again and don’t know how to get out of it? Do you rack your brains wondering what creates this vicious circle? I see couples every week for coaching who have reached a stalemate in their relationship. They are often trying to get their needs met with strategies that are simply not working. They may even be unknowingly pushing their partner away. It’s extremely frustrating when deep down there

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Question:  What do you get when you bring 4 women to the woods in the middle of nowhere for a weekend? Answer:  Topless dancing, swimming, hiking, soaking in natural hot springs, gourmet meals, lots of laughter and not quite enough sleep! But seriously… These women and I have been journeying together for 3 years now.  We meet for mastermind by video conference once a month and we meet for one on one sister support calls in between. These sisters have been my lifeline through the start up of my coaching business, through changing

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The numbers are in. According to the latest Statistics Canada data, approximately 38 per cent of all marriages end in divorce. In the US, the rate is more like 40-50%. In a survey of 200 people done by Trustify in 2018, 55% of male respondents cheated on their spouse with five or more people 50% of female respondents admitted to cheating with one person 23% of the men said the leading cause of the affair was due to a lack of sexual satisfaction 28% of the women said the cause

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It disheartens me how much natural sexual expression is thwarted.  Sexual energy is so precious and sacred.  Yet most of us flail around in the bedroom, looking for a “role” to play. Do you fake orgasm?  Do you egg your partner on so sex can be over and done with?  Do you have sex because your partner wants to even though you don’t?  Do you feel you have to finish even if you’re having no fun, or even in pain? These are sad things but I can write them because I have lived them.  I have lived them for

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Flowing in circles….following your heart… not pushing past…following your body….not ploughing through….these are the qualities of the feminine.  Circular, intuitive, trusting, heartfelt, mysterious, soft, yielding, receptive, embodied, emotional…   The other morning I woke up feeling depressed.  Then I became annoyed that I didn’t have the energy for my to-do list.  I decided to consult the NVC list of feelings and needs.  This is a super helpful resource to name your emotions and needs you are having in any moment.   After finding the words for my needs and feelings, I decided not to pressure

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