How much do you prioritize pleasure in your life? When do you focus on it? And what is the challenge for you in prioritizing pleasure? Do you focus instead on: Productivity Survival Relationship Harmony (not rocking the boat) These were my top 3 biggies.  I needed to be turned toward pleasure. To be told I could love my body, to focus on it. And to be told how….. In truth, pleasure is the felt sense of the nature of the universe. The very fabric of the universe is made of

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Reuben and I are getting ready to teach a 4-week Tantra for Couples course in Nelson, starting Wednesday June 5th and I wanted to take this opportunity to share with you my excitement for Tantra and what it has done for us! For us, there is now a clear distinction between “conventional sex” and “tantric” (or conscious) sex.  Going back to conventional sex is near impossible now that we have experienced the benefits of Tantra. For me, Tantra has been a way to use sex to grow and evolve as a human being.  In Tantra I get

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It was Saturday of Easter Weekend. I had about three different offers coming my way for how to spend the evening. Friends, family, out at a karaoke club, partner. But I had to admit I was feeling plain tired. I was also feeling grumpy that I didn’t have more energy to socialize. I knew that a girlfriend of mine had sexy plans for the evening. That sounds enticing, I thought. I was envious. So with all these feelings swirling in me, my partner asked me what I wanted for the

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The numbers are in. According to the latest Statistics Canada data, approximately 38 per cent of all marriages end in divorce. In the US, the rate is more like 40-50%. In a survey of 200 people done by Trustify in 2018, 55% of male respondents cheated on their spouse with five or more people 50% of female respondents admitted to cheating with one person 23% of the men said the leading cause of the affair was due to a lack of sexual satisfaction 28% of the women said the cause

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It disheartens me how much natural sexual expression is thwarted.  Sexual energy is so precious and sacred.  Yet most of us flail around in the bedroom, looking for a “role” to play. Do you fake orgasm?  Do you egg your partner on so sex can be over and done with?  Do you have sex because your partner wants to even though you don’t?  Do you feel you have to finish even if you’re having no fun, or even in pain? These are sad things but I can write them because I have lived them.  I have lived them for

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Intimacy means “Into-Me-You-See.”  I recently asked my partner of over 20 years to tell me what is the heart of intimacy.  My partner closed his eyes for several seconds and shared this: “The heart of intimacy is being able to go into your highest highs and lowest lows in the presence of another.  And being able to hold space for another to do the same.” So simple. So beautiful. We then talked about what makes intimacy possible. First and foremost, in intimacy comes self-love.  It is not possible to truly accept

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